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KIDUSHIN 24-30 (9-15 Sivan) - This week's study material has been
dedicated by Mrs. Rita Grunberger of Queens, N.Y., in loving
memory of her husband, Reb Yitzchok Yakov ben Eliyahu
Grunberger. Irving Grunberger helped many people quietly in an
unassuming manner and is dearly missed by all who knew him.
His Yahrzeit is 10 Sivan.
1) TEACHING YOUR SON TORAH
(a) Question: What is the extent of the obligation to teach
one's son Torah?
2) COUNTING LETTERS AND VERSES
(b) Answer (Rav Yehudah): As Zevulun ben Dan - his
grandfather taught him written Torah, Mishnah, Gemara,
laws, and Agados.
(c) Question (Beraisa): One must teach one's son written
Torah - he need not teach him Mishnah!
(d) Answer: Regarding how many generations one must teach,
the obligation extends as in the case of Zevulun ben Dan,
whose grandfather taught him;
1. One is not obligated to teach as much as Zevulun ben
Dan was taught - written Torah is enough.
(e) Question: Is a grandfather really obligated?!
1. (Beraisa): "You will teach your sons" - and not your
(f) Answer: Rav Yehudah holds as the following Tana.
2. Question: But it says, "You will make known to your
sons and grandsons"!
3. Answer: This teaches, one who teaches his son Torah,
it is considered as if he also taught his grandsons
and all future generations.
1. (Beraisa) Question: "You will teach your sons" -
from where do we know, also your grandsons?
(g) (R. Yehoshua ben Levi): One who teaches his grandson
Torah, it is considered as if he received it from Sinai -
"You will make known to your sons and grandsons...the day
you stood before Hash-m on Sinai".
2. Answer: "You will make known to your sons and
3. Question: If so, why does it say "You will teach
your sons" (implying only your sons)?
4. Answer: That teaches, one need not teach his
(h) Reish Lakish donned a makeshift head covering and was
taking his son to learn.
1. R. Chiya bar Aba: You don't have time to dress
(i) (Rav Safra): "v'Shinantam (you will teach them) to your
sons" - since it did not say "v'Shanisam", we expound
this to say v'Shilashtam (you will divide in thirds);
2. Reish Lakish: This is no light matter - "You will
make known to your sons and grandsons...the day you
stood before Hash-m on Sinai"!
3. From that day, R. Chiya bar Aba would not eat each
morning until he reviewed his son's learning (of the
previous day) and taught him more.
4. Rabah bar Rav Huna would not eat each morning until
he brought his son to learn.
1. A person should divide his years in 3 - one third he
should learn written Torah, one third Mishnah, and
one third Gemara.
2. Objection: But a person does not know how many years
he will live!
3. Answer: He should divide the days of each week among
these 3 (Rashi; Tosfos - each day, he should learn
(a) The early sages were called Sofrim (counters), for they
would count all letters of the Torah:
3) HOW ONE SHOULD LEARN
1. The Vav of "Gachon" is the middle letter (of the
large and small letters) of the Torah;
(b) Question (Rav Yosef): Is the Vav of Gachon the first of
the 2 letters in the middle, or the second?
2. "Darash, Darash" are the middle words;
3. "v'Hisgalach" is the middle verse;
4. The Ayin of "mi'Ya'ar" is the middle letter of
5. "v'Hu Rachum" is the middle verse of Tehilim.
1. Rabanan: Let's take out a Sefer Torah and count -
this was done for a similar question!
(c) Question (Rav Yosef): Is v'Hisgalach the first of the 2
middle verses, or the second?
2. Rav Yosef: They knew all the extra and missing
letters, we do not.
1. Abaye: This we can count!
(d) (Beraisa): There are 5,888 verses in the Torah; Tehilim
has 8 additional verses, Divrei ha'Yamim lacks 8 verses.
2. Rav Yosef: Here also we are unsure - in Eretz
Yisrael, they consider "Hash-m said...I will come to
you in the cloud" to be 3 verses!
(a) (Beraisa): "v'Shinantom (you will repeat them)" - (you
should review until) words of Torah are sharp in your
mouth, so if you are asked, you can respond immediately.
4) OTHER MITZVOS TO DO WITH A SON
1. "Say to Chachmah, you are my sister" (Torah should
be as clear to you as (your prohibition to) your
(b) (R. Chiya bar Aba): "When they speak with enemies in the
gate" - even a father and son, or Rebbi and Talmid, when
they engage in Torah, they become enemies;
1. "Es v'Hav b'Sufah" - in the end (Sofah), they will
love each other.
(c) (Beraisa): "v'Samtem (you will put them)" - Torah is
compared to a potion of life (Sam Tam, a pure potion);
1. This is as a man that hit his son; he put a bandage
on the wound and told him, as long as the bandage is
on, he may eat and bathe as he desires; if he
removes the bandage, blisters will sprout.
(d) (Beraisa): The evil inclination is very harsh - even
Hash-m calls it evil - "The inclination of man's heart is
evil from his youth".
2. So Hash-m told Yisrael: I created the evil
inclination, and I created the Torah to fix it.
i. If you engage in Torah, you will not be
overcome by it - "If you will improve, you will
ii. If you do not engage in Torah, you will be
overcome by it - "Sin crouches at the opening".
iii. Moreover - the evil inclination will be wholly
dedicated to make you stumble - "Your desire is
iv. If you want, you can rule over it - "You will
rule over it".
(e) (R. Yitzchak): A man's inclination renews itself every
day - "Just evil the whole day".
(f) (R. Yehoshua ben Levi): A man's inclination overpowers
him every day and seeks to destroy him - "The evil one
waits for the Tzadik and seeks to kill him;
1. Without Hash-m's help, the Tzadik could not prevail
- "Hash-m will not abandon (the Tzadik) into his
(g) Beraisa (Tana d'Vei R. Yishmael): If this disgusting one
(the evil inclination) encounters you, drag him to the
1. If he is stone, he will melt; if he is iron, he will
shatter (some texts - if he is iron, he will melt;
if he is stone, he will shatter)
(a) (Beraisa): To marry him to a woman.
5) MITZVOS THE SON MUST DO FOR THE FATHER
(b) Question: From where do we know this?
(c) Answer: "Take wives and bear sons and daughters; take
wives for your sons, and give your daughters to men".
1. We understand, a man can find a wife for his son.
(d) (Beraisa): He must teach him a trade.
2. Question: Can a man always find a husband for his
3. Answer: He can give her clothing and property, so
men will be eager to marry her.
(e) Question: From where do we know this?
(f) Answer (Chizkiyah): "See life with the woman that you
1. The 'woman' referred to may be, literally, a wife;
or, it may stand for Torah.
(g) (Beraisa): Some say, even to teach him to swim.
2. In either case - just as it is a Mitzvah to take a
wife for one's son or to teach him Torah, it is also
a Mitzvah to teach him a livelihood.
(h) This may save his life.
(i) (Beraisa): R. Yehudah says, whoever doesn't teach his son
a trade, he teaches him robbery.
(j) Question: This cannot be!
(k) Answer: Rather, it is as if he teaches him robbery.
(l) Question: The first Tana also said he must teach him a
trade - on what do they argue?
(m) Answer: The first Tana says that it is enough to teach
the son commerce; R. Yehudah says, he must teach him a
(a) (Mishnah): Every Mitzvah of the father on the son (both
men and women are obligated).
(b) Question: What does that mean?
1. Suggestion: Every Mitzvah the father must do for the
(c) Answer (Rav Yehudah): Rather, it means every Mitzvah
incumbent on the son to do for the father, both men and
women are obligated.
2. Rejection (Beraisa): A father is commanded to
circumcise his son and redeem him (if he is a
firstborn) - but a mother is not!
1. (Beraisa): "A man (will fear his mother and father)"
- this only teaches that a man is obligated; "Tira'u
(you (plural) will fear)" - this teaches, also a
(d) (Rav Idi bar Avin): If a woman is divorced, she is
obligated (to honor and fear parents) just as a man.
2. Question: If so, why does it say "A man"?
3. Answer: A man is able to fulfill the Mitzvah, a
(married) woman is not (because she must be by her
(e) (Beraisa): It says "Honor your father and mother", and
"Honor Hash-m from your wealth";
1. The Torah equates the honor of parents with honor of
(f) It says "A man will fear his mother and father", and "You
will fear Hash-m and serve him";
1. The Torah equates fear of parents with fear of
(g) It says "A man that will curse his father (or) mother
will die", and "A man that will curse his G-d, he will
bear his sin";
1. The Torah equates cursing parents to cursing Hash-m.
(h) (Beraisa): There are 3 partners in creation of a child:
Hash-m, the father, and the mother.
i. Clearly, hitting only applies to parents!
2. It is fitting that obligations to parents parallel
obligations to Hash-m, for all 3 were partners in
the child's creation.
1. When the child honors his parent, Hash-m considers
it as if He dwelled among them and they honored Him.
(i) (Rebbi): Hash-m knows that a child honors his mother more
than his father because she entices him with things -
therefore, He commanded to honor the father before the
(j) Hash-m knows that a child fears his father more than his
mother because his father teaches him Torah - therefore,
He commanded to honor the mother before the father.